Hey! I’m not going to sugarcoat this; marriage can get boring. If you’re reading this, you probably already know it’s true. You love your partner to bits, but somewhere between paying bills, doing laundry, and arguing about whose turn it is to take out the trash, the fun kind of… disappeared.
Here’s what I’ve learned after years of working with couples: the spark doesn’t just vanish because you stopped loving each other. It fades because you stopped making time for joy. And trust me, I’ve seen this pattern play out dozens of times in my practice.
The good news? Bringing fun back into your marriage is totally possible, and it doesn’t require a complete relationship overhaul or expensive couples therapy (though therapy rocks, FYI).
Think about when you first started dating. Remember those butterflies? The late-night conversations? The random adventures? Yeah, those weren’t accidents. You made time for them because you wanted to connect. Well, your marriage deserves that same energy.
In this article, I’m sharing practical, real-world strategies that actually work, not some fluffy advice you’ll forget tomorrow. These are the same techniques I recommend to my clients, and they’ve helped transform countless marriages from “meh” to “heck yeah!”
18 Ways To Bring Fun Into Your Marriage
Let me walk you through these game-changing ideas. Some might seem simple (because they are), but don’t let that fool you. Sometimes the simplest shifts create the biggest breakthroughs.
1. Plan Spontaneous Date Nights
Okay, I know what you’re thinking: “Spontaneous date nights? But we plan everything!” That’s exactly the problem.
Routine kills romance faster than you can say “Netflix and chill.” When every date night happens on the same day, at the same restaurant, wearing the same outfit… yeah, no wonder things feel stale.
Here’s what spontaneity actually looks like in practice: Last month, one of my clients texted her husband at 3
PM saying, “Pack a bag. We’re leaving in an hour.” They ended up at a cozy bed and breakfast two hours away, no plan, no agenda. Just them. She told me it was the first time in months they’d laughed until their stomachs hurt.
You don’t need elaborate plans. Surprise your partner with tickets to that comedy show they mentioned weeks ago. Show up at their office for an impromptu lunch date. The key is breaking the predictable pattern your relationship has fallen into.
Pro tip: Keep a running list on your phone of places you both want to try. Apps like Google Keep or Notion work great for shared lists. When inspiration strikes, you’ve got instant options.
2. Take A Dance Class Together
Dancing together is basically relationship therapy with better music. Seriously though, there’s something magical about moving in sync with your partner.
I remember when my husband and I took our first salsa class. We were terrible, like, hilariously awful. I stepped on his feet so many times I’m surprised he still has toes.
But here’s the thing: we laughed more in that one hour than we had in weeks. We were forced to communicate, coordinate, and get physically close without phones, kids, or work emails interrupting.
Dance classes work because they push you outside your comfort zone together. You’re both beginners (unless one of you is secretly a Dancing with the Stars contestant), so there’s no pressure to be perfect.
You’ll mess up, laugh at each other, maybe get a little frustrated, and then celebrate when you finally nail that tricky move.
Types of dance to consider:
- Salsa (spicy and fun)
- Ballroom (classic and romantic)
- Hip-hop (if you want to feel young again :/)
- Swing (energetic and playful)
- Check out local studios on DancePlug or search for beginner classes on Meetup.
The physical closeness, eye contact, and coordinated movement? That’s intimacy building, my friend.
3. Play Board Games Or Video Games
Remember when you were dating and you’d stay up late playing games, talking trash, and cracking jokes? Why did that stop?
Gaming together is seriously underrated as a bonding activity. It brings out your playful side, encourages healthy competition, and gives you something to do together that isn’t scrolling through your phones in silence.
One couple I worked with was on the brink of separation. They barely talked anymore. I suggested they start playing board games twice a week, no phones allowed, just games.
Within a month, they were joking around again, teasing each other, and actually enjoying each other’s company. They’re still together three years later, and Friday game night is sacred in their house.
Choose games that match your vibe. Competitive couple? Try strategy games like Catan or Ticket to Ride. Want to work together? Pick cooperative games like Pandemic. Just want to laugh? Cards Against Humanity never disappoints (if you’re not easily offended).
Gaming creates low-pressure quality time. You’re not forced to make deep conversation, but the natural banter that happens while playing? That’s where connection lives.
4. Have Themed Movie Nights With Costumes And Snacks
If your idea of movie night is zoning out on the couch in your pajamas scrolling Instagram while something plays in the background… we need to talk.
Themed movie nights transform passive entertainment into active engagement. Pick a theme, maybe ’80s action movies, rom-coms, or a Harry Potter marathon, and go all in. Dress up as characters. Make themed snacks. Create a whole experience.
I know a couple who started “International Film Friday.” Each week, they pick a country, watch a movie from there, and order matching cuisine. They’ve “traveled” to over 30 countries without leaving their living room.
The effort you put in shows your partner they’re worth it. Plus, it’s just more fun. Would you rather mindlessly watch another superhero movie, or dress up as villains, make themed cocktails, and actually engage with each other? Yeah, I thought so.
Theme ideas to get started:
- Horror movie marathon with scary snacks
- Disney night with childhood favorites
- Foreign film series exploring different cultures
- Classic westerns with BBQ and cowboy hats
5. Go On Surprise Weekend Getaways
Nothing shakes up a stagnant relationship like leaving your normal environment behind. I’m talking about spontaneous mini-adventures, not necessarily expensive vacations.
Here’s what typically happens: life gets busy. You keep saying “we should take a trip,” but months pass and you never do. Meanwhile, your relationship is basically running on autopilot.
Surprise weekend trips work because they force both of you to be present. No work. No household chores screaming for attention. Just you two exploring somewhere new (or somewhere familiar but meaningful).
A client of mine felt her marriage was dying. Her husband surprised her with a weekend at a cabin two hours away, nothing fancy, just a cozy place near a lake.
They hiked, cooked together, talked by the fire, and reconnected in ways that felt impossible at home. She called it their relationship reset button.
You don’t need to break the bank. Find a cute Airbnb within driving distance, pack a bag, and go. The change of scenery does wonders for your mood and your marriage.
6. Recreate Your First Date
Want to remember why you fell for each other? Go back to where it started.
This is one of my favorite exercises to suggest because it’s pure nostalgia magic. Think about your first date, where you went, what you wore, what you talked about. Now recreate it as closely as possible.
I tried this with my husband for our anniversary. We went back to the same restaurant where we had our awkward first dinner (we were so nervous!). We ordered the same meals, sat in the same section, and talked about how different our lives are now. It was sweet, funny, and honestly pretty emotional.
This works because it reminds you of your foundation. You remember that excited, butterflies-in-your- stomach feeling. You see how far you’ve come as a couple. It’s like hitting refresh on your love story.
Challenge each other to remember specific details from that day. What was the weather like, what song was playing? What made you laugh? These conversations spark connection and remind you why you chose each other.
7. Try Cooking New Recipes Together
The kitchen can either be a battleground or a playground. Choose playground, please.
Cooking together forces teamwork, communication, and creativity. You’re both working toward a common goal, and whether you succeed or hilariously fail, you’re doing it together.
I once suggested to a couple who constantly bickered that they cook dinner together three times a week. “We’ll kill each other!” they said. But here’s what actually happened: they learned to communicate better.
They had to coordinate, compromise, and eventually laugh at their mistakes. Their kitchen became their safe space.
Try recipes that push you both out of your comfort zone. Make homemade pasta from scratch. Attempt sushi rolling. Bake an elaborate dessert.
Platforms like Tasty or AllRecipes have tons of fun recipes to explore together. The point isn’t perfection, it’s the shared experience.
Make it more fun by:
- Having cooking competitions with silly prizes
- Trying cuisines you’ve never attempted
- Making viral recipes from TikTok or YouTube together
- Creating your own signature dish as a couple
Even if the meal is a disaster, you’ve got a funny memory and a stronger bond. IMO, that’s worth a ruined dinner.
8. Organize Friendly Competitions
A little competition keeps things spicy. Playful rivalry can actually strengthen your connection when done right (keyword: playful).
Think mini golf, bowling, trivia nights, or even who can do the most push-ups. The winner gets bragging rights and maybe a small prize, loser does dishes for a week, winner picks the next date night, whatever.
One couple I know has a running competition to see who can find the weirdest thrift store item under $5. Every month, they hit up thrift shops, and whoever finds the most bizarre treasure wins. It’s become their thing, and honestly, it’s adorable.
Competition works because it brings out your playful side. You’re not focused on bills or stress, you’re focused on winning (and maybe talking a little trash while you’re at it).
Just remember: Keep it lighthearted. The goal is fun, not actual fighting. If either of you gets genuinely upset, you’ve gone too far.
9. Explore New Hobbies As A Couple
When was the last time you tried something completely new together? If you’re struggling to remember, that’s a red flag.
Shared hobbies create shared identity. You become “the couple who hikes every Sunday” or “those people who make their own pottery.” It gives you something to look forward to together.
I’ve seen couples transform their relationships through hobbies. One pair took up rock climbing and told me it taught them to trust each other in completely new ways.
Another started a garden together, and watching things grow became a metaphor for their relationship growth.
The hobby itself almost doesn’t matter. What matters is you’re learning together, growing together, and creating new memories outside your daily routine.
Ideas to explore:
- Photography (explore your city through a lens)
- Painting or pottery (check local studios on CourseHorse)
- Hiking or birdwatching (nature brings peace, use AllTrails to find routes)
- Learning an instrument together
- Volunteering (connection through service, find opportunities on VolunteerMatch)
The key is choosing something you’re both genuinely interested in. Don’t force it, find that sweet spot where both your interests overlap.
10. Write Love Notes And Hide Them In Unexpected Places
This might sound cheesy, but little surprises create big feelings.
Imagine your partner opening their laptop and finding a sticky note that says “You make me laugh harder than
anyone else” or reaching into their jacket pocket and discovering “Thank you for being my person.” Those small moments? They add up.
I practice what I preach here. I leave notes in my husband’s lunch, his car, inside his favorite book. Sometimes they’re sweet, sometimes they’re funny, sometimes they’re a bit sarcastic. But they all say the same thing: I’m thinking about you.
This works because:
- It takes minimal effort but shows maximum thought
- Your partner feels seen and appreciated
- It breaks up the monotony of regular life
- It creates pleasant surprises in unexpected moments
Pro tip: Don’t make every note overly romantic and serious. Mix in humor. “You’re stuck with me forever, sorry not sorry :)” hits different than generic romantic poetry.
11. Plan Scavenger Hunts Around The House Or Neighborhood
Want to feel like kids again? Scavenger hunts bring out everyone’s playful side.
Create clues that lead your partner around the house or neighborhood. Each clue should lead to the next location, with maybe small treats or memories along the way.
The final destination? Could be a special gift, a romantic dinner setup, or just you waiting with their favorite dessert.
One of my clients planned a scavenger hunt for their anniversary. Each clue referenced a significant moment in their relationship, “Go to where I first said I love you” led to their favorite park bench, where another clue waited. The whole thing took an hour, and her husband said it was the most thoughtful thing anyone had ever done for him.
Scavenger hunt ideas:
- Memory lane theme (each clue references your relationship history)
- “Reasons I love you” theme (each location has a note about what you appreciate)
- Adventure theme (leads to a surprise date or gift)
- Inside joke theme (only you two will understand the clues)
- The effort shows you care, and the playfulness reminds you both to stop taking life so seriously.
12. Have Regular “No Phones” Days
Let’s be real: phones are ruining marriages. Not dramatically, just slowly, quietly, constantly.
You’re sitting on the couch together, but you’re not actually together. You’re scrolling, he’s scrolling, nobody’s connecting. This is what I call “alone together,” and it’s becoming the norm.
Set aside one day (or even just a few hours) where phones go in a drawer. No checking work emails, no scrolling social media, no responding to texts unless it’s an emergency. Just you two, fully present.
I challenged a couple to try this after they admitted they barely talked anymore. They were terrified. “What will we even do?” First no-phone day was awkward.
By the third one? They were talking, laughing, and actually enjoying silence together without the urge to fill it with screen time.
Benefits you’ll notice:
- Actual conversations happen
- Eye contact returns
- You remember what your partner’s laugh sounds like
- Physical intimacy often improves (just saying)
Start small if a full day feels impossible. Try phone-free dinners or Sunday mornings without screens.
13. Attend Concerts Or Events You Both Enjoy
Shared experiences create shared memories. That’s relationship gold right there.
Going to concerts, comedy shows, sporting events, or theater productions gives you something to get excited about together. You’re not just existing in the same space, you’re actively enjoying something as a team.
My husband and I have a tradition of seeing live music at least once a month. Sometimes it’s big arena shows, sometimes it’s local bands at dive bars. But those nights out? They’re when we feel most connected. We’re singing along (badly), dancing, laughing, and creating memories that’ll last way longer than another night on the couch.
The magic happens in three places:
- The anticipation (talking about the upcoming event)
- The experience itself (being there together)
- The reminiscing (remember when that happened?)
Pick events that genuinely interest both of you. If one person is miserable at a death metal concert, that’s not exactly relationship bonding. Use platforms like Eventbrite or Bandsintown to discover concerts and events in your area.
14. Create A Bucket List Of Fun Activities To Accomplish Together
Dreams are great, but written goals are game-changers. Sit down together and brainstorm all the things you want to do as a couple. Big stuff like “visit Japan” and small stuff like “try that new brunch spot downtown.” Write it all down.
Make it visual using tools like Trello or create a shared board on Pinterest. Pin it somewhere you’ll both see it.
The bucket list works because it gives you something to work toward together. It transforms vague ideas into concrete plans. Plus, checking things off together? That’s pure satisfaction.
I created a couple’s bucket list with my husband five years ago. We’ve checked off about 40% so far, and each accomplishment feels like a mini celebration. It keeps us looking forward instead of just trudging through daily life.
Your list might include:
- Travel destinations
- Restaurants to try
- Skills to learn together
- Adventures to tackle
- Experiences you’ve always wanted
Review it quarterly and prioritize what you want to accomplish next. Watch how it transforms your relationship from stagnant to adventure-focused.
15. Try Adventurous Outdoor Activities
Nothing tests and strengthens a relationship quite like facing challenges in nature together.
Outdoor adventures push you outside your comfort zone, which is exactly where growth happens. Hiking that difficult trail, kayaking through rapids, or camping under the stars, these experiences reveal new sides of each other.
I’ll never forget when my husband and I went zip-lining. I’m terrified of heights, and he basically coached me through the entire thing. Seeing his patience and encouragement in that moment? It reminded me why I married him.
Outdoor activities to consider:
- Hiking local trails or planning a backpacking trip
- Kayaking or paddleboarding
- Rock climbing (indoor or outdoor)
- Camping and stargazing
- Cycling new routes
- Skiing or snowboarding
- Zip-lining or ropes courses
The physical challenge combined with natural beauty creates the perfect environment for bonding. Plus, accomplishing something difficult together builds trust and teamwork.
You don’t need to be outdoor enthusiasts. Start small, a nature walk, a picnic in a park. Work your way up to bigger adventures as you both get comfortable.
16. Host Couple-Themed Parties With Friends
Social connections matter, and doubling up on fun with other couples amplifies the joy.
Host game nights, dinner parties, or themed get-togethers where everyone participates. Maybe it’s a murder mystery party, a wine tasting, or just a casual cookout with close friends.
Seeing your partner interact with others, laugh at their jokes, and shine socially? That’s attractive. It reminds you of the person you fell in love with beyond just “my spouse who leaves dishes in the sink.”
One couple I worked with felt isolated in their marriage. They started hosting monthly gatherings, nothing fancy, just casual hangouts with other couples. The social energy revitalized their relationship.
They started flirting with each other again, sharing inside jokes, and presenting as a team rather than two people who just happen to live together.
Party ideas for couples:
- Potluck dinners with a theme
- Board game tournaments
- Backyard movie nights
- Seasonal celebrations
- Trivia competitions
The key is making it regular enough that everyone looks forward to it, but not so frequent that it feels like another obligation.
17. Do Random Acts Of Kindness For Each Other
Small gestures speak louder than grand declarations. Always have, always will.
Random acts of kindness aren’t about keeping score. They’re about showing your partner you see them, you know them, and you care about their happiness.
Maybe your partner hates taking out the trash. Do it without being asked. Maybe they mentioned wanting to try that new coffee shop.
Surprise them with their order. Maybe they’ve had a rough week. Draw them a bath, light candles, and take over kid duty for the evening.
These tiny moments create a foundation of appreciation and thoughtfulness. They say “I’m paying attention to you” in ways that words sometimes can’t.
Ideas that work:
- Make their favorite breakfast
- Fill up their gas tank
- Handle a chore they despise
- Pick up their favorite snack unexpectedly
- Give them alone time when they need it
The best acts of kindness are personalized. Generic gestures are nice, but showing you actually know your partner’s preferences? That’s next level.
18. Create Inside Jokes And Laugh Together
If you can’t laugh together, what’s the point?
Inside jokes are relationship glue. They’re those moments only you two understand, the funny thing that happened on vacation, the weird voice your partner does, the ridiculous nickname you call each other. They’re yours, and they bond you.
My husband and I have probably 50+ inside jokes at this point. We reference them constantly. It’s like our own private language that keeps us connected and reminds us of our history together.
Laughter does three critical things:
- Reduces stress and tension
- Increases intimacy and connection
- Creates positive associations with your partner
Don’t force jokes or humor. Let them develop naturally. But do prioritize laughter. Watch comedies together. Share funny videos. Be silly. Don’t take yourselves so seriously that you forget to enjoy each other.
Some of my happiest couple clients are the ones who laugh the most together. They don’t have perfect lives or drama-free relationships. They just remember to find joy in the everyday chaos.
Final Words On Ways To Bring Fun Into Your Marriage
Here’s the truth: your marriage will only be as fun as you make it. It won’t magically become exciting while you’re both scrolling through phones or complaining about work. You have to intentionally create joy.
The strategies I’ve shared aren’t complicated. They don’t require tons of money or massive life changes. They just require you to decide that fun matters, that your relationship matters, and that you’re willing to put in a little effort.
Start with one or two ideas that resonate with you. Next week you start leaving love notes. Small steps create big changes over time
Now stop reading and go surprise your partner with something fun. They’ll thank you for it, and more importantly, you’ll both feel more alive in your relationship.
Life’s too short for boring marriages. Go make some memories together.
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