Picture this: you’re sitting with your partner, and that awkward silence hits. You know, the one where you’re both scrolling your phones but secretly thinking “we should probably be talking about something.” Been there? Yeah, me too, and trust me, it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Here’s where dirty would you rather questions become your secret weapon. As a relationship coach who’s worked with hundreds of couples over the past decade, I can tell you that these questions aren’t just silly games. They’re conversation gold mines that reveal desires, boundaries, and personality traits you never knew existed.
These questions work whether you’re in a new relationship, trying to figure each other out, or you’ve been together for years and want to rediscover that spark. They break down walls, create laughter, and sometimes lead to some pretty steamy conversations 🙂
Think of Would you rather questions as your relationship’s secret sauce. They help you learn how your partner thinks, what turns them on, and where their comfort zones end. Plus, let’s be honest, they’re just plain fun.
We’ll explore everything from flirty would you rather questions that make you both giggle, to the seriously dirty ones that might make you blush. Ready to transform those quiet moments into connection opportunities?
Would You Rather Questions For Couples
Starting with a couple of questions makes sense because these set the foundation for deeper conversations. These questions help you understand your partner’s preferences without being too intense right off the bat.
Relationship Dynamics Questions:
- Would you rather go on a double date with your parents or go on a double date with your partner’s parents?
- Would you rather make love with the lights on or make love with the lights off?
- Would you rather do it on a questionable hotel bed or do it in a public restroom?
- Would you rather catch your partner cheating or get caught cheating yourself?
- Would you rather give a lap dance or receive a lap dance?
- Would you rather accidentally pass gas during intimacy or accidentally bite while kissing?
- Would you rather have a candlelit dinner or have a fancy four-course meal?
- Would you rather see your partner at their absolute best or see your partner at their absolute worst?
- Would you rather I know something embarrassing about you or discover you still talk to an old flame?
- Would you rather have to use their toothbrush or wear their dirty underwear?
I’ve found that these questions often lead to hilarious stories and surprising revelations. One couple I worked with discovered they both had the same irrational fear of double dates with parents, which led to them creating their own “parent meeting” game plan.
Lifestyle and Future Questions:
- Would you rather have a lazy but completely trustworthy partner or have a jealous but incredibly hardworking partner?
- Would you rather have a partner who snores loudly or have a partner who drools in their sleep?
- Would you rather have a huge, expensive wedding or have a small but super intimate wedding?
- Would you rather see each other only once per week or see each other for only one hour every single day?
- Would you rather make out in public or make out at your family gathering?
- Would you rather propose in complete privacy or propose in front of all your family and friends?
- Would you rather be the stay-at-home partner or be the main breadwinner of the family?
- Would you rather be the dominant partner or the submissive partner?
- Would you rather have a date at an amusement park or have a date at a water park?
- Would you rather have three children or have just one child?
Intimate Preference Questions:
- Would you rather focus on speed or on lasting performance?
- Would you rather go back in time to know your partner longer or have more quality time with them right now?
- Would you rather eat restaurant food for every meal or eat only home-cooked meals?
- Would you rather live in a busy, crowded city or live in peaceful suburbs?
- Would you rather have a partner who absolutely hates pets or have a partner who loves them and wants several?
These questions work because they reveal core values and preferences. Pay attention to how your partner answers and what reasoning they give. You’ll learn so much about their decision-making process.
Fun Would You Rather Questions For Couples
Sometimes you need questions that just make you both laugh until your sides hurt. These fun options help you see your partner’s silly side and create those inside joke moments that strengthen relationships.
Ridiculous Scenario Questions:
- Would you rather forget every password you create or forget your own name when meeting new people?
- Would you rather ride a bicycle to work every day or fly a kite to get to work?
- Would you rather be completely covered in thick fur or be completely covered in fish scales?
- Would you rather live forever or have nine lives like a cat?
- Would you rather poop solid bricks or vomit live snakes?
- Would you rather be naked all the time or never be allowed to leave your house again?
- Would you rather clog the toilet at your workplace or clog the toilet at your future in-laws’ house?
- Would you rather have to bow respectfully to everyone you pass or walk everywhere wearing a blindfold?
- Would you rather own books that smell exactly like fresh donuts or have body gas that creates rainbow colored clouds?
- Would you rather have skin that changes colors based on your movement or have tattoos that randomly appear based on yesterday’s activities?
Physical Absurdity Questions:
- Would you rather have comically huge lips or abnormally large ears?
- Would you rather have only one ear or have two belly buttons?
- Would you rather poop every time you sit down or vomit every time you stand up?
- Would you rather wear adult diapers everywhere or drink baby formula instead of regular milk?
- Would you rather fight one human-sized house cat or fight ten regular-sized cats?
- Would you rather use vinegar as eye drops or use sandpaper as toilet paper?
- Would you rather dip your toothbrush in a clean toilet and brush your teeth or accidentally drop your phone in a dirty party toilet?
- Would you rather drink expired milk or brush your teeth using hot sauce?
- Would you rather have a hamster-sized elephant as a pet or have an elephant-sized hamster?
- Would you rather eat an entire raw lemon or eat an entire raw onion?
Do they get creative with their reasoning? Do they laugh or take it seriously? All of this reveals personality traits that matter in real-life situations.
Would You Rather Questions For Adults
These questions get more serious and thought-provoking. They’re designed for mature conversations and help you understand your partner’s deeper values and life philosophy.
Life Choice Questions:
- Would you rather make absolutely anyone fall in love with you or be able to read everyone’s minds?
- Would you rather have a full beard for life or be completely color blind?
- Would you rather never hear music again or lose your ability to read completely?
- Would you rather eat a small can of dog food or eat several overripe bananas?
- Would you rather create an amazing piece of art but get zero credit or get full credit for an amazing art you didn’t actually create?
- Would you rather travel and see the entire world or stay in one place but be extremely wealthy?
- Would you rather get a painful papercut every time you touch paper or bite your tongue every time you eat food?
- Would you rather find your true soulmate or become incredibly rich?
- Would you rather always get stuck in terrible traffic or always have painfully slow internet?
- Would you rather be able to control other people’s actions or be able to erase people’s memories?
- Would you rather be permanently allergic to chocolate or be permanently allergic to your smartphone?
- Would you rather live one single life for 1000 years or live ten different lives for 100 years each?
These adult questions often lead to fascinating discussions about values, priorities, and life goals. I’ve seen couples discover they have completely different ideas about success, happiness, and what matters most in life.
Hardest Would You Rather Questions
Warning: these questions will make your brain hurt and might lead to some intense conversations. They’re designed to really make you think about difficult moral and personal dilemmas.
- Would you rather lose your ability to tell lies or believe absolutely everything everyone tells you?
- Would you rather lose all the money you’ve earned this year or lose all the memories you’ve made this year?
- Would you rather always hit red traffic lights for the rest of your life or always have slow internet after sunset?
- Would you rather know exactly how you will die or know exactly when you will die?
- Would you rather have a permanent splinter under your big toenail or have a permanently terrible haircut?
- Would you rather know all the world’s biggest secrets or live in blissful ignorance forever?
- Would you rather be able to communicate with animals or know other people’s private thoughts?
- Would you rather be completely celibate for the rest of your life or slowly starve to death?
- Would you rather be the person who flips the switch during executions or be the judge who decides who gets executed?
- Would you rather constantly feel like you need to pee or have to wear diapers for the rest of your life?
These questions reveal core values and how your partner processes difficult moral situations. There are no right or wrong answers, but their reasoning tells you everything about their character.
Best Would You Rather Questions
These are the classic questions that work in almost any situation. They’re engaging without being too intense or too silly.
- Would you rather be a complete genius who knows everything or be naturally amazing at any activity you attempt?
- Would you rather eat dinner completely alone or watch movies by yourself?
- Would you rather be the richest person in the world or live forever?
- Would you rather wear pants that are 3 sizes too big or shoes that are 3 sizes too small?
- Would you rather travel back in time to meet your ancestors or travel to the future to meet your great-grandchildren?
- Would you rather lose your ability to speak or lose your ability to hear?
- Would you rather witness the world’s beginning or witness the world’s ending?
- Would you rather have unlimited money or have unlimited time?
- Would you rather only be able to whisper or only be able to shout?
- Would you rather work longer hours per day but have longer weekends or work shorter hours per day but work more days per week?
These questions are perfect conversation starters because they’re thought-provoking but not threatening. They help you understand your partner’s priorities and decision-making style.
Would You Rather Questions For Crush
If you’re still in the getting-to-know-you phase or want to test the waters with someone you’re interested in, these questions are perfect. They’re flirty without being too forward.
- Would you rather be with someone who’s naturally shy or be with someone who makes you feel shy?
- Would you rather cook a romantic meal together or order takeout and relax?
- Would you rather be extremely wealthy or be incredibly good looking?
- Would you rather throw an amazing party for friends or help plan someone else’s perfect party?
- Would you rather watch a movie together or watch a beautiful sunset together?
- Would you rather have true lasting love or have an unlimited bank account?
- Would you rather let your heart make all major decisions or let your head make all major decisions?
- Would you rather wear your partner’s clothes or have your partner wear your clothes?
- Would you rather work out together or binge-watch Netflix series together?
- Would you rather manage a team of difficult employees or be one of the difficult employees?
- Would you rather work as part of a team or work completely solo?
- Would you rather have an amazing singing voice or have incredible dance moves?
- Would you rather get tied up during intimate moments or tie your partner up instead?
Flirty Would You Rather Questions
Ready to turn up the heat just a little? These questions add some spice to your conversation without going completely overboard.
- Would you rather have a casual friends with benefits situation or have a completely serious committed relationship?
- Would you rather always be early for everything or always be fashionably late?
- Would you rather snack on healthy foods or indulge in chocolate treats?
- Would you rather date someone who’s very introverted or someone who’s very extroverted?
- Would you rather always cook meals at home or always order restaurant delivery?
- Would you rather kiss someone on a great first date or save it for the second date?
- Would you rather get lots of compliments from random strangers or only get compliments from your crush?
- Would you rather have a coffee shop date or have drinks at a trendy bar?
- Would you rather go out to watch movies or stay on the couch with snacks?
- Would you rather hook up with your high school crush or hook up with your celebrity crush?
- Would you rather have a fancy corporate office job or work from home in your pajamas?
- Would you rather throw a party at your house or go to someone else’s party?
These questions often reveal relationship styles and dating preferences that are super important for compatibility. Pay attention to their answers!
Deep Would You Rather Questions
These questions require vulnerability and trust. Save them for when you’re ready to have more meaningful conversations about life, relationships, and personal values.
- Would you rather date someone much older than you or someone much younger than you?
- Would you rather ask your crush out face-to-face or ask them out through text?
- Would you rather live with your best friend or live completely by yourself?
- Would you rather have a lazy Sunday morning in bed or have an active, adventurous morning?
- Would you rather talk in your sleep every night or sleepwalk every night?
- Would you rather spill a drink on yourself or accidentally spill a drink on an attractive stranger?
- Would you rather always take showers or always take baths?
- Would you rather have a boring desk job or have an active job that’s exhausting?
- Would you rather have a job that makes you happy or have a job that pays really well?
- Would you rather have unlimited wine or unlimited dessert?
- When you’re in a bad mood, would you rather be left completely alone or have someone try to cheer you up?
- Would you rather have all your private text messages leak publicly or have all your private photos leak publicly?
- Would you rather be able to change something from your past or be able to see into your future?
- Would you rather ask your ex for a big favor or ask a stranger for a big favor?
- Would you rather be able to read your partner’s mind or have a partner who can read your mind?
- Would you rather catch your parent cheating on your other parent or catch your partner cheating on you?
- Would you rather find your true passion in life or find your perfect soulmate?
- Would you rather forget the best period of your life or forget the worst period of your life?
- Would you rather hurt someone you deeply love or forgive someone who hurt your family?
Dirty Would You Rather Questions
Alright, here we go. These are the questions you’ve been waiting for. They’re definitely adults only and designed for couples who are comfortable discussing intimate topics openly.
Intimate Scenario Questions:
- Would you rather accidentally send intimate pictures to a stranger or accidentally send them to your ex?
- Would you rather be intimate with someone twice your age or wait until you’re much older?
- Would you rather pleasure yourself privately or pleasure yourself in front of your partner?
- Would you rather give your partner a lap dance or perform a slow striptease?
- Would you rather have a one-night stand with someone incredibly attractive or someone incredibly skilled in bed?
- Would you rather accidentally walk in on your parents being intimate or have your parents walk in on you?
- Would you rather pleasure yourself all day long or make love all day long?
- Would you rather keep the lights on during foreplay or keep them completely off?
- Would you rather have group intimacy with strangers or with all your past partners?
- Would you rather only make love in the bedroom or never make love in the bedroom?
Location and Timing Questions:
- Would you rather make love in your backyard or make love on your front porch?
- Would you rather have early morning intimacy or late-night intimacy?
- Would you rather make out with your boss or watch your partner make out with their boss?
- Would you rather be the submissive partner during intimacy or be the dominant partner?
- Would you rather have kinky adventurous intimacy or sweet romantic intimacy?
- Would you rather be touched intimately under a restaurant table or under the table at your parents’ house?
- Would you rather make love with someone who’s passed away or never make love again?
- Would you rather know when your parents are being intimate or have your parents know when you’re being intimate?
- Would you rather your partner see an intimate video of you with a family member or with their best friend?
- Would you rather date someone with an extremely high body count or someone who’s constantly curious about your past?
Workplace and Financial Intimacy:
- Would you rather sleep with your boss for a promotion or discover your partner slept with their boss for a promotion?
- Would you rather have a sugar mama who wants intimacy constantly or one who wants intimate photos constantly?
- Would you rather make out in complete darkness or make out in public view?
- Would you rather only be intimate with paid professionals or remain completely inexperienced?
- Would you rather have to pay for intimate experiences or be paid for them?
- Would you rather make love against the wall or make love in bed?
- Would you rather remove your partner’s underwear with your teeth or tease them with your tongue until they remove their underwear?
- Would you rather have your fingers digging into your partner’s back during intimacy or have your partner’s legs wrapped around your waist?
- Would you rather make lots of noise during intimacy or make one really loud noise during climax?
- Would you rather discover your partner was intimate with your parent in the past or discover your ex is now intimate with your parent?
More Dirty Would You Rather Questions
Advanced Intimate Scenarios:
- Would you rather have multiple average climaxes or just one absolutely incredible climax?
- Would you rather be with someone who loves to strip tease or someone amazing with their mouth?
- Would you rather be terrible at foreplay or terrible at the main event?
- Would you rather be with someone who walks around naked at home or someone who wears sexy outfits around the house?
- Would you rather watch animals mating or watch strangers being intimate?
- Would you rather make out on a bed with questionable stains or make out on a dusty floor?
- Would you rather pick someone up from a nightclub or pick someone up from a quiet bar?
- Would you rather receive oral pleasure or give oral pleasure?
- Would you rather be tied up during intimacy or be handcuffed during intimacy?
- Would you rather have a threesome or experiment with someone of the same gender?
- Would you rather have your partner take you from behind or face-to-face?
- Would you rather have unusually large breasts or have no lips at all?
- Would you rather be intimate with your ex again or be intimate with a stranger?
- Would you rather be unable to have children or be permanently single?
Final Thouhts
We made it through quite the journey! This collection of dirty would you rather questions should give you plenty of material for months of interesting conversations.
Be prepared for answers that might surprise you. Growth happens when we step outside our comfort zones and learn new things about each other.
The best relationships are built on curiosity, openness, and genuine interest in each other’s inner worlds. So grab your partner, pick a question that feels right, and start exploring. Your relationship will thank you for it!
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